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Notes on Domination

Note 1: If you have usually been the more submissive partner and your man is usually the one who takes the initiative, then you may feel awkward and nervous trying to become more dominant. Don’t worry, it’s totally normal! The key is to just embrace it, everything will get easier with experience.

Note 2: If your man starts acting weird or asks you to explain your new behavior, all you need to do is tell him that you want to try something different and that you hope he likes it. If he puts up serious barriers to it, then it’s best to just sit down with him and talk to him in a frank way about what you want to try with him.

Note 3: It’s not all whips and chains. Learning how to be more dominant sexually never needs to involve whips & chains or any of that stereotypical stuff that you might see in porn or read about in 50 Shades Of Grey. It occurs on a spectrum. Sure some people want the more extreme stuff or even a small degree of it, but at the end of the day the key is finding what works FOR YOU.

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